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I’m a 20-something who lives in a college town – an Ivy college town to be exact. While I’m not an Ivy graduate, I do believe I should score extra points for being an honors graduate from a great school, for being someone well traveled and who has done a lot of work for her college. All these things combined should make me a good match for some of these Ivy scholars… One would think, right?

That’s why I was shocked when I read your entry about “Rambling Ron” who felt like such a literary genius merely because he reads Ayn Rand. When I was on a dating site, I listed one of Ayn Rand’s books as one of my favorites. You would be surprised by how many blatantly rude rejections I got from potential matches (mostly from grad students) about my literary preferences deemed a “naivety” by many of them.

I was called “unintelligent”, “narrow-minded” and accused of “worshipping objectivism” not to mention, being a “poseur.” I mean, come on! Just because a person likes Jay-Z’s music per say doesn’t mean that they believe in everything he raps about. Moreover, who would be dumb enough to judge someone completely off their profile? How about meeting me first before making any assumptions?

Finally, I did manage to pique the interest of one grad student who did me the “honors” of going on a date with me. He was probably one of the nicest guys I’ve met on campus in my two years of living in this town. There was no spark however, but I must say, I had some great conversations about art and technology with this guy. The thing is, everybody has likes and dislikes and we’re never going to agree on absolutely everything. But am I going to completely judge a person based on me not liking one of their many interests? I’m not. But that doesn’t mean that somewhere on some dating site, someone else isn’t casting judgments on others’ likes and dislikes at this very precise second.